Dear Pregnant Mommy,
I just wanted to congratulate you on your news...your expecting!! I am so excited for you! I'd love to offer you a suggestion on a name. Krista or Kristopher?? Sounds great doesn't it? But seriously, I want to take a minute and offer you some tips, unsolicitated yet well intentioned. So take 'em or leave 'em.
You are busy "making people" as my friend Allison says. Take some time and enjoy it. Do some things that you love to do. You don't have to give them up after the baby comes, but it may be more difficult to find time, finances, or energy to do some of them at first. And yes, this can include sleeping in or taking a nap.
Grab a simple journal or calendar and jot down things that you are experiencing. Nine months will go by before you know it, although it doesn't seem to be going quickly for you now.
Don't study those darn pregnancy books. They'll scare you to death. Read them. Be informed but know that everyone's experience can be different. Remember that usually the "odds" are with you, not against you.
When registering, I recommend taking a mom with you and your spouse. Not just any mom. Take one that is somewhat practical or you will have a ton of crap on your registry (and then in your house) that you don't need. Buy unisex equipment whenever possible if you plan to have more kids. You might not love the pink bouncy seat as much the next time you have a baby. Oh yeah, bibs that are lined on the back with plastic/vinyl are the best because liquid won't soak through. The bouncy seat might be the best invention in the world. Enjoy all of the options to choose from.
Every person has an opinion. When you tell someone the child's name, your birthplan, or your decision on nursing or bottle feeding, be prepared. Sometimes you'd think it was their uterus that you were talking about. If your doctor/midwife doesn't respect your decisions or your concerns, find a new one. Remember, some mom's may debate your choices because they want to justify their own choices. Do what works best for you and your family. Oh, and people may want to touch your tummy or may comment about your body size and shape. You didn't know this but you gave up your right to privacy. (Just kidding.)
You are going to be a great mom. It is okay to be nervous but remember that so many of us are on your side praying for you and your little one(s). And don't forget....Krista or Kristopher goes well with most last names.
This is the first of a few letters that I plan to write to moms/dads at different stages. Things I wish I had known. New moms need support. What is your advice for the Pregnant Mommy?? Please share.